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Conflict Coaching: How to Turn Conflict into an Opportunity for Growth


How would the quality of your life change if you'd be able to discover in conflict an opportunity for personal and organizational growth?

We can't escape conflict. It's a natural part of life. The higher the degree of interdependence the more likely we will run into conflict.

What we can change is our attitude towards conflict.

How we deal with conflict says a lot about our maturity as human beings and professionals. I know, it's an inconvenient truth.

When we experience conflict, we tend to react. We either fly, fight, or freeze. 

A lot of time we assign blame to the other. It's someone else's fault. We point fingers.

When we turn the blaming mode on, we are like the driver stuck...

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How to Handle Conflict in the Workplace

conflict management Nov 21, 2018

The cost of conflict in the workplace can be very high. While conflict cannot be avoided, the approach to its solution makes all the difference. In this post, you learn to recognize which attitude and skills help to handle in a constructive way conflict in the workplace.

According to the report “Workplace Conflict and How Businesses Can Harness It to Thrive,” the following statistics demonstrate how pervasive conflict is in the workplace:

  • 85 percent of employees deal with conflict on some level
  • 29 percent of employees deal with it almost constantly
  • 34 percent of conflict occurs among front-line employees
  • 12 percent of employees say they frequently witness conflict among the...
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Mindfulness and High Performance

Imagine confronting the challenges you encounter at work with creativity instead of with stress. How would the quality of your productivity and happiness shift?

I spent a few days with Ananda Giri, a great spiritual teacher from One World Academy in India.

I had invited him to visit Colombia for a series of seminars and workshops, including with top executives of prominent companies.

I had met Ananda Giri through Tony Robbins and last year I had attended one of his intensive 3-day seminars in Bogotá. The experience was powerful and transformative.

The teaching of Ananda and the O&O Academy is both simple and profound.

The central principle is that we only can...

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The 7 Steps to Transform Any Conflict

conflict management Sep 20, 2018

The numbers are troubling.

According to a study commissioned by CPP Inc. — publishers of the Myers-Briggs Assessment and the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument — U.S. employees spend 2.1 hours per week involved with conflict, which amounts to approximately $359 billion in paid hours (based on an average hourly earnings of $17.95), or the equivalent of 385 million working days.

According to the report “Workplace Conflict and How Businesses Can Harness It to Thrive,” the following statistics demonstrate how pervasive conflict is in the workplace:

  • 85 percent of employees deal with conflict on some level
  • 29 percent of employees deal with it almost constantly
  • 34...
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How to be More Assertive and Increase Your Confidence

Assertiveness is a trait of mature leaders. When lacking, people resort to passivity or aggressiveness. Instead, when leaders develop the quality of assertiveness, their performance, impact, and influence spreads, deepens and lasts.

When under pressure, are you uncomfortable exerting authority? Are you hesitant in making decisions? Are you somewhat reserved and low-key?

If you answer "yes," or "most of the time," then you are struggling with your level of confidence, and you wish you were more assertive.

A few weeks ago, a coaching client (whom I will call Laura) told me she was tired of behaving like a chicken instead of speaking her mind. She was able to be directive and firm with her...

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Discover the 3 Pillars of Success and Peak Performance

If you want to succeed and enjoy peak performance, there are three pillars you need to develop. Let’s discover what they are so that you can assess how solid those pillars are in your life.

But first, let me tell you about a conversation I had a couple of days with one of the highest-ranking executive coaches in the world, John Mattone; an incredible human being and a visionary thought leader.

John has been coaching CEO and top executives around the world; Steve Jobs was one of his clients. John’s business took off within a few years, and thus I asked him the reasons for his success.

He told me about the serious commitment and the deep passion that drives...

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Why Purpose is Key to Effective Leadership

leadership life purpose Jun 24, 2018

To have a clear purpose is essential for the successful performance of an executive.

That is why at the beginning of a coaching process, I always help current and emerging leaders to formulate their purpose statement.

To have a big goal or a higher purpose doesn't coincide with having a massive profit as the driving motivation. Quite the contrary; to have a higher purpose refers to the meaningful contribution that a leader or an organization make to benefit the world.

In Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, best-selling author Daniel Pink underscored how profit, though a strong motive, is not a sufficient one for ultimate success. He writes:


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